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Newsletter #24

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Forgiving People

At some point most of us learned that it is a good idea to forgive people. We learned that it is "holy" or "spiritual".

But there is a more basic reason to forgive people: when you don't forgive them, it ruins your life!

Let's say: a) you are my boss and you give me the sack, or b) you are my girl, and you run off with my buddy. So I say, "I'll never forgive you for that!"

Who suffers? Not you!

I'm pacing the floor. I've got the knot in my stomach. I'm losing sleep. You are probably out partying!

Where do we get the idea that if WE don't forgive people, THEY suffer? It's nuts!

Recent studies at the Public Health Institute in California confirm that hostility and resentment tear down your immune system and double your risk of heart attack, cancer and even diabetes. Bitterness makes you sick!

To forgive someone, you don't have to agree with what they did. You just have to want your life to work.


Is it easy? Usually not. But you don't forgive people for their benefit. You do it for your benefit.

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